America’s Worst Mom

You may have heard about this already, but New York Sun columnist and author of the blog Free Range Kids, Lenore Skenazy, is definately America’s Worst Mom.

In the newsweek article it explains how, after admitting to letting her 8 year old son ride the subway by himself, Skenazy was labelled a horrible mother with no concern for her child’s safety by the psychopath’s that bandage scraped knees with horse hair suchors and do more damage to their children by keeping them under lock and key than riding the subway to and from the store could in a dozen years. What this article calls “Helicopter” Parenting.

It *has* to be her, because it can’t be my saint of a mother – nevermind her constant severe physical, verbal and emotional abuse. Nevermind that my mother also stood by and watched her husband beat my sister and I bloody for over a decade, that she took my youth and used us as work horses while denying us basic human rights like bathing. No, my mother was amazing and Lenore Skenazy is horrible – because my mother kept a close eye on me. She never let Laota or I out of her sight, we weren’t even allowed to answer the phone or door! How DARE Skenazy abuse her child by letting him ride the subway!?

There’s this feeling among adults that every time their child goes out to ride their bike they’ll be abducted and never seen again, and while I understand wanting to keep your child safe, keeping them dependant on you is going to make for a very unhappy childhood and a harder switchover to an independant adult life.

The case was made that when the baby boomer generation were young, they appreciated a certain level of trust and indepenedance from their parents, and were trusted with running errands, taking public transportation, going to the store, etc. and that moder kids are coddled and should be allowed more freedom. Now, while I agree with that, I do have an issue to point out – exhibit A, from Newsweek:

So why are some parents so nervous about letting their children out of their sight? Are cities and towns less safe and kids more vulnerable to crimes like child abduction and sexual abuse than they were in previous generations?

Not exactly. New York City, for instance, is safer than it’s ever been; it’s ranked 136th in crime among all American cities. Nationwide, stranger abductions are extremely rare; there’s a one-in-a-million chance a child will be taken by a stranger, according to the Justice Department. And 90 percent of sexual abuse cases are committed by someone the child knows. Mortality rates from all causes, including disease and accidents, for American children are lower now than they were 25 years ago. According to Child Trends, a nonprofit, nonpartisan research group, between 1980 and 2003 death rates dropped by 44 percent for children ages five to 14 and 32 percent for teens aged 15 to 19.

Now, I’ve been known far and wide for my general dislike of the Baby Boomer generation – it could be said that they had social change in the palm of their hand and pissed it away on drugs and disco, then turncoated in the 70s and 80s with the vintage Yuppie movement which bypassed my generation and is now landing on the faces of Generation Z. And it could be said that the Aquarians and their contemporaries were either too conservative or too liberal with no in between balance, and that they screwed up America for everyone who came before them by kicking sand in the eyes of tradition and screwed it up for everyone who came after them by creating a country based on consumerism that’s now destroying the planet and every last corner of the arts, but there is one good thing I can say about them – I think Lenore, while I agree with what she’s doing, is dead wrong.

Yes, children should have more freedom, I’m 100% behind that. And I don’t see anything wrong with her son having a level of independance – it’s great! But if you think about it, maybe all of this coddling from the baby boomers is the reason things are safer now, the reason that death rates have dropped, the reason that abductions have decreased – maybe all of that Helicopter Parenting’s kept those kids out of harm’s way. Something’s changed, that’s for damn sure.

Police Gear and Stellar Boots

Ooh, police gear website – with neat things for me to buy! Okay, okay, so I’m not so much into the BDU pants ( even if $15 IS a fabulous price ), but the shoes – the boots, to be more precise – are to die for!

I’ve always been a out of the closet combat boot fan, and I’m just an all around boot fanatic these days, and L.A. Police Gear’s got a great selection of Converse, and you know how I love Converse!

Book Em, Dano

Last night Laota and I sat down and talked for a very long time about our novels, both WIP’s, and the directions we’d like to go with them and we hashed out a lot of ideas together for both stories and now *trumpet fanfare* Irene has an ending!

It’s also got a lot of elements it didn’t have before, like the ghost’s M.O. and how it’s curse spreads without making it truly viral, which is nice because before it didn’t have an M.O. at all. So it’s starting to come together and starting to make some kind of sense, and now I can forsee not only the entire first six chapters but also the way in which the ghost is created and how the book finally ends – I’m hoping I’m a decent enough writer to do any kind of justice to this genre, though.

I’ve got a lot of hangups about writing, and while I’m a fair plot person I’ve never considered myself a writer and that likely has a lot to do with me being surrounded by great writers in my circle of friends. I’ve noticed that you’re either great (H.S. Thompson, Jack Kerouac), you suck (Kelly Nuba) or you suck but people tell you you’re great (Anne Rice, and that chick who wrote Twilight), and I don’t want to be the latter – though I can deal with sucking or greatness, or even great sucking, lol.

Find Your Look

Okay, Rabid Readers, you caught me – I’m a fashion nut. I’m no Fashionista, but I have my own style and I’ve been known to beat trends to the runway ( leg warmers, 80s fashion, plastic jewelry, suspenders, newsboy chic ) though I do tend to drop a look once it’s become trendy and adopt a new one that I don’t think will ever catch on – like my Japanese loose socks.

Currently, in fact, I’m a big fan of the maxi dress over mini dresses no matter what the current trends tell me, but if you’re looking to grab something trendy, cute and affordable – and more importantly, in your size(!) – you can find something you’ll adore at OhSoChicBoutique.

I’ve fallen in love with a lot of their clothes and, while the Trendy section doesn’t have a lot of variety ( which is sad because it’s my favorite section ), the rest of the website does and they’ve got some fabulous pieces. I’ve already found some things I want to buy, like the gorgeous duo tone Sweet Lady in black and white that comes in size 18/20 which is about where I am right now, and the red, vibrant Delish with it’s gorgeous detailing and cap sleeves that you know I love considering I’ve more than once rambled on about them, lol. And if you’re looking to save some bread, partake in OSCB’s Spring Event and save 15% on your order plus FREE SHIPPING if you use the promo code SPringFling at checkout.

Yaz or What?

A friend of mine just switched from Ortho Tri Cyclen Lo to Yaz about two months ago to see if it was any better ( the Ortho Tri Cyclen Lo heightened her PMS symptoms and gave her horrible stomach cramps ), well I talked to her last night and she commented on how she wished she’d never switched, because even with Ortho Tri Cyclen Lo’s problems it was never as bad as Yaz.

Apparently even though Ortho Tri Cyclen Lo had worsened her PMS, Yaz managed to CLINICALLY DEPRESS her! She lost her sex drive completely, is doubling over in pain half of the time and experiences PMS symptoms ALL MONTH LONG! I don’t know if it’s Yaz or her system that’s the problem, but I wanted to get the word out to ask about these side effects before taking either Ortho Tri Cyclen Lo or Yaz!

Wholesale Paradise

If you’re looking to start your own business – and if you’re a Mommy Blogger, Postie or a Sparkler, I’m sure you’ve thought about it! – one way of dong this is wholesale products. I’ve more than once dabbled in this field, mostly I’m a fan of drop shipping for use on eBay, but DollarDays.com doesn’t do drop shipping because their super low wholesale prices are based on bulk orders ( or that’s how I understand it, at least ).

I’m already in love with DollarDays, their site has a big selection and a lot of name brands like Curve cologne and other high quality merchandise like wholesale electronics, shoes, party supplies, and my favorite, wholesale chocolate! I think the design of the site could be a tad better, but it is very clean and easy to use and it does look professional and trustworthy, so all of that boils down to me talking myself out of buying bulk chocolate and eating it all in one sitting, lol.

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Daily Freebie: Senseo Coffee Maker

Ooh, freebies time! I know you secretly want freebies, you just don’t want to admit it. And I wub you, so I’ll tell you about a $70 coffee system for $15 shipping and handelling ( seriously, you can buy a crappy coffee maker for that, but this one’s so much better ).

You get the single serve coffee maker, some coffee pods, a canister to keep them in and a ton of coupons for your friends and family to get themselves some cheap Senseo coffee makers – and it’s from Phillips and Sara Lee ( backed up by Verisign and Paypal ) so you have nothing to worry about.

Now, I’ve got a friend who’s gotten her coffee maker and it’s definately real, she only paid (via paypal) s+h for it, so if you’re looking to get something for practically nothing ( or for Mother’s Day, if you hurry! ) I’d check out the survey over at Share Senseo.com – nothing beats free!

Review: The ShowerBow

I *hated* my shower curtain, seriously. First of all, shower curtains do little to keep water inside your shower unless someone’s got some kind of magical shower curtain with a forcefield or something that I’ve never seen on the market. Secondly, shower curtains cling – to everything…to butt’s! Oh yes, shower curtains can’t *wait* to cling to your butt, your butt looks good to a shower curtain, and so you’ve got to push them out of the way and you inevitably end up pushing the bottom of the curtain out of the tub and negate the point of having a shower curtain to begin with.

On top of all that, a shower curtain ( even a spotless one ) is a breeding ground for bacteria, do you really want it up against your skin? Really?

Well, MoreShowerSpace.com has something called the ShowerBow, which is supposed to hold your shower curtain gently away from you to give you more space to stand without shower-curtain-on-butt, which is nice because I hate shower-curtain-on-butt, and it tucks back invisibly when you push your shower curtain aside. Actually, it’s more or less invisible the whole time, so you don’t get an unslightly plastic ma-jigger arching out from behind your shower curtain and making your bathroom look weird.

The whole thing looks cool to me, especially for those who still use shower curtains – I’ve upgraded to shower doors, which are equally as bad but at least they don’t cling to the butt!

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California Dreaming

Have you seen this? The kid’s name is, I think, Sungha Jung and he’s absolutely AMAZING! I questioned for a minute if he were really doing it or not, but it appears that he is – he needs to cut a demo and send it to me, lol.

I love this kind of music anyway, it’s just beautiful – to me this is soul music, it’s just got me, you know? Anyway, watch the video, lol. Prais the boy – and ty to Natalie for showing this to me!

Cheer On!

Movies_squad81_300x206cCompany 81 loves every guy I’ve ever known, and I’ll tell you why – Cheerleaders! I’m not a huge fan of their clothing ( it’s nice, but not my style ) since all of my friends and I are a weird, retro rockabilly weirdos, drag queens or goths ( yes, seriously ) but if you *are* into their clothes you can actually enter to win a brand new summer wardrobe which will be delivered to you by – oh yes – the Cheerleaders!You’ll know when you’ve been hit by this hot cheery bunch, how could you not? And if you’re bored you can send your friends a virtual cheer, how cool is that!?

 

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